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The Judge in your Divorce won’t believe you.

Hey friend:

If you tried to sell her the story that your parenting is perfect, the Judge in your Divorce would not believe you.


Many of those judges are also parents, so they know you’re [email protected]#$king it up, like every day.  Just like the rest of us.  Doing our best, but never quite nailing it.


Why am I telling you this?


Because I want you to know that you can stand in your truth without fear.


I want you to know that you can take action as a parent and then not be mean to yourself later because you didn’t handle the situation the way that you “should have.”


There is no "should have" -- there is only what is.  That's the way the universe works.


And in this universe, we are all doing the best we can as parents, and screwing it up.  And that's totally okay.


Because even if you were some anomalous parent, doing it all perfectly, the Judge in your divorce wouldn't believe it anyway.


Oh, and by the way, nobody knows what that means -- the "perfect" parent.  Ask around.  See how many different answers you get.


If you're like I used to be, you believe that beating yourself up is the path to self-improvement, but that's complete bu#%$hit.


 And here's something else I want you to consider.


What if being imperfect was the way to "perfectly" parent?


What if owning that you made a mistake and then moving forward was the lesson that you wanted to model for your children?


Crazy, right?  But what if it isn't? I mean, could you imagine what it would be like as a child to have a perfect mother?  This seems like an awful lot of unnecessary pressure to me.


What if the best way to show kindness to your children is by showing kindness to yourself first?


What if the path to peaceful co-parenting is to make peace with yourself first?


It is, my friends, and that is exactly where your work begins.


You won't believe what opens up for you when you embrace all of you, mistakes included.


Talk to you soon, friend.  You take care in the meantime.


Janie Lanza Vowles -- Practicing Divorce Lawyer -- Certified Life Coach

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